“I finally faced the fact that it isn’t a crime not having friends. Being alone means you have fewer problems.” Whitney Houston
Sending so many prayers and love to the Houston family!
NYC baby!!! Big City, Big Dreams… I was happy to start the season off filming in NYC! It is home for me and home is where the heart is but it wouldn’t be right without any drama unfolding!
Diann Valentine is a familiar face, she planned my wedding and we are still good friends. I always say I had the perfect wedding, just the wrong groom but life goes on.
It’s always great to catch up with the girls outside of Miami. Suzie recently moved to New Jersy so it was good to hang out with her and be “Single in the City.” Tami is also from NY so I know she was happy to spend some time at home filming. Shaunie often travels to NYC for business and Royce is acting in a play in the Big Apple as well.
Ok on to the new girls! I am always leery about new cast mates each season because females can be very catty and you see how the whole Meeka scenario ended. I am in the space in my life where I really don’t need any extra drama and I am too old to be trying to make new BFFs. My first impression of Kesha was that she seemed mild-mannered and cool. Kenya and I are both going through a divorce so I thought we would probably be able to relate to a lot of things. The whole “bougie” thing, ok I get it! I like certain things, however I don’t think I am a snob. In my eyes, “bougie” isn’t a bad thing! It's actually the alternative to being a loud and obnoxious female, so I'm good with that.
If you follow me on twitter and watch my show you can see that I maintain a very steady and peaceful voice. I don’t sub-tweet, I’m not negative and I rarely curse. It’s just not what I’m about. Filming this season has been a very stressful experience but there has been some sweet with the bitter. I met new people, traveled to many exciting places and have done a ton of incredible things. I am healthy and I am blessed. Sadly, there’s always someone out there that would prefer to see you miserable.
As you heard on tonight’s show, Evelyn is upset with me about a blog that was written by my publicist. Reason being, I didn’t have time to personally do it because I was on vacation in Italy with my girlfriends. I honestly didn’t think she wrote anything awful or harmful. It stated my opinion and I feel I ‘m allowed to have one. Take a look for yourself. Was this statement really worth all the drama?
“The idea of me being jealous of Evelyn’s engagement is a bunch of crap and NO I don’t mess around with the same type of guys that Evelyn dates. I am just getting out of a ten year relationship and am very cautious about who I go out with.”
What I really have a hard time understanding is that this blog came out July 19th, 2011 and the first time I heard about Evelyn being mad was in November 2011. When we filmed the reunion in July the blog was out and she didn’t mention it then. It is just absurd to me that we are fighting over something so simple in my eyes but I guess not in hers. So be it!
Tonight the world witnessed for themselves the type of evil I am dealing with. These words pretty much sum up the state of affairs.
Season 4 Premiere
Me: “I’m not gonna be enemies with someone I’ve known over a decade.”
Evelyn “You’re not my friend, you’re my enemy.”
It was at this very moment that I realized there would be no resolution. No matter what I would do, Evelyn already had it in her mind that I was her enemy. And there you have it…
Stay tuned to see how far it will go!
"The Reality Check" soon to come.
A lot has transpired in my life within the past year. Going through a divorce has been challenging for me. I had to really dig deep and make some difficult decisions. No one really knows what it is like to face a divorce unless you have experienced it. Feelings of loneliness, where do I go from here, thoughts of being a failure, etc. were all emotions I had to process. There were times I went into a place of solitude and disappeared to process my thoughts alone without anyone’s influence. It was during this healing process, I finally saw the light at the end of the tunnel.
I am definitely in a happy place in my life. Some days I don’t know what tomorrow holds but I do know I want to remain in this happy space. Focusing on my independence and my future has left me very little time to dwell on drama. My livelihood is my main concern at the moment. To others it may seem as if I am a “new person” and they are right. Life is about advancement and I am a different person than I was a year ago. I wasn’t happy and I was facing a tough decision to stay in my marriage or leave. Not to mention, this whole thing was playing out in front of the cameras for everyone to see something that was so painful and private. I left, I feel free and I am having fun! Something I haven’t felt in years. Therefore I wont make excuses about changing or what I like to call evolving.
And to be quite frank, I think all my cast mates are evolving. The show is a huge part of our lives however you don’t get to experience every aspect of the women’s lives. It's something about New York that just makes everyone want to hustle hard. You will see this as Royce lands her role in a play, Kenya pursues her music career, I am building Lucid from the ground up and the other woman in pursuit of their dreams. I hope everyone stays tuned in for the remaining episodes because there is lots more to come.
Although we may all have our differences at times, I wish health and happiness for everyone and their families!
Lots of love,
Leaving NYC to go to Miami is bitter sweet. Having grown up in NJ, a lot of my family and friends are still in the NYC area. But being “Single in South Beach” isn’t so bad!!!
I want to thank everyone who supported me throughout my entrepreneurial journey with Lucid. It was great to see some of my friends from elementary school and high school there to support me. So I am not sure where “out with old in with the new” applies. Tami was invited to my event; her manager even came so not sure what the mix up was. My launch on the episode tonight was my official retail launch for stores. This is my baby and with every milestone I achieve, if I feel the desire I will throw a party. I worked damn hard with this company I built solely from the ground up. There is a huge difference between endorsing a product or doing a licensing deal and owning it 100%. It is nothing wrong with any but the latter is much more work but the benefits are incredible. Shuffling through all the negativity that I’ve had to deal with, having Lucid to focus my energy on has been a blessing.
NYC brings out that hustler’s spirit. I know Kenya went though some hurdles with her video and I am glad to see that she pulled it off despite everything and not spending $8K on a venue. Kesha’s event for her friend with cancer was a very honorable thing to do and I know she reached her goal. So kudos to the girls getting their hustle on in NYC!
Being around 7 women for an extended period of time can be very draining at times because there is bound to be some drama. I feel there is a lot of love between all the girls, although not always displayed at times. I know it is difficult for the new girls to get adjusted to the emotional rollercoaster. This season has been quite an eventful and interesting one. I am throwing myself into work and just trying to make myself a better person. There have been a lot of personal challenges for me in the past year and I am just trying to understand the lesson from my experiences and become a better person. I am by no means perfect nor do I think I am and the camera catches all of us at some of our worst and most vulnerable times. I hope our viewers can understand all the ladies give a lot of themselves filming this show and try not to judge too critically as we all as humans have faults and make mistakes. As for me, I am just doing what I do best and that is me!
Stay tuned as the drama unfolds back where it all started, MIAMI!!!
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Being on a reality show has definitely taught me a lot especially when it comes to production and editing. Let me start by saying production tells us who we will be filming with and where. And if they are trying to build a story then that is what they are going to do. Get it, ok? Enough about that, lesson learned.
I am glad Royce and Suzie went to go visit Kesha and learn a little more about her and where she is from. I found her story very interesting and yes my “bougie ass” probably would not have done well on that farm. It seems like the ladies had a good time in Drexel, NC and that is really all that matters. We all come from different walks of life whether it’s the country, suburbs, city etc… Kesha embraces her culture and good for her.
Phillipes, Phillipes! SMH! Where do I start? Lets just say the drinks were flowing and that is normally when things go left. First off, my speech was not about myself it was about how I thought Shaunie was a good example for me to look at because I feel she made the best out of a negative situation and she is now happy. But again, the beauty of editing! As you have watched me for three seasons now, I am never the loudest one in the room, I do not try to be nor do I want the focus on me. Overall, I think what happened at Phillipes was immature and unfortunate. Sadly, sometimes when the red light on the camera comes on you never what you are going to get. I call it the Red Light Special! “You ain’t about this life.” Hmmm, what life is that? The life I am about is trying to be happy and making strides to be an independent woman. Overall, I hope Shaunie enjoyed her birthday despite the drama!
“Jennifer has changed.” Now all of a sudden if I’m out in NYC with my friends outside of the show it’s a problem? It is refreshing to not have to talk about the drama of Basketball Wives all the time. And we all have friends outside of the show. I have always split my time between Miami and NYC so its obvious I am going to have friends here. I am single and why not enjoy myself? It’s so easy to point the finger and say what someone else has done but try pointing it at yourself and see what happens. We all have flaws and make mistakes. All I can say is I am happy with the direction my life has gone and the family and friends who now play a role in my life, I am not going to let the pettiness upset me.
Lastly, I would like to thank my family, friends and fans who have stood by me through thick and thin and all my good and bad times without judging me. Please stay tuned to more episodes of Basketball Wives because of course the drama doesn’t end here!